Discover The Secrets Of Likeability And Authenticity In Business Coaching

Don't Shut People Out

In leadership, you need to have influence. You can do so by being likable. What makes likeable people the way they are? Two things- they're charming and they're genuine. With remarkably likeable people around, the whole room can lit up with a lot of smiles.

You might not have the Mr. or Miss Popularity savvy for now, and you're shy, basically. You grapple for words to say after the "how do you do" moment when you meet someone. How do you make a good impression then? Here are some cues from extraordinarily charismatic leaders.

Set aside all sense of self- importance. Unflattering cockiness or arrogance repels people. Your parents might have told you to stand tall and proud, but it could exude superiority, and it shuts people out. Lose the power pose. Great leaders like Nelson Mandela and Bill Clinton avoid the "come to me" power move by making steps forward with a smile and slightly bending forward, as if giving a bow.

Showing a sign of deference and respect is apt to elicit the same from others. We usually like people who like us, don't we?

Use The Power Of Touch

(Non sexual) touch is powerful. Embrace the power of touch because it can effectually influence behavior. Is there are reluctant or underconfident member in your team? An encouraging pat on his/her shoulder can boost their confidence and increase their chances of compliance. A leader who uses the power of touch also seems more friendly and attractive.

However, make the "touch" casual and non- threatening. Go easy with a light pat on the upper arm or the shoulder. Bill Clinton's "power touch" comes with a right-handshake and a left-hand touch combined with a genial posture and smile.

Whatever (perceived) barrier or distance between people is dissolved by a genuine touch. The power of touch is therefore a key component in liking and being liked.

Be A Social Jiu Jitsu Master

Learn the ancient art of social Jiu- Jitsu. It's a skill of getting the other person to talk about themselves. It sounds complicated, but the gist of SJJ is actually being interested and polite mingled with social graces. Don't be afraid to lose either; and in the first place, don't even think that you're in a "getting to know you" competition. Let them be better than you, and you need an ample amount of confidence to be able to do so.

Leadership that is kind, gracious and respectful leaves a good impression on people, and in return garners respect and likeability, ultimately increasing your influence. Elegant courage leadership is responding honestly to the situation, a kind of authenticity that makes its mark.