Big Glass Door Part 3 - Final

Part 3 of Big Glass Door

What you put into the box or into your room which became your life experience is what you will get out. There is no other way. You cannot pull information from this space that you have not put into the box, that is unless you learn to access the Big Glass Door. Everything that you believe in life right now to this day was either forcibly or voluntarily made a part of your experience. Therefore the clean and clear window that you received at birth is now smudged and dirtied with the negative experiences of your life.

These smudges that are put on this flawless piece of glass which bring you joy every time you look through it are placed there by your parents, friends, as well as what you watch on television, listen to on your headphones, and what is deliberately programmed into your mind on a daily bases.

The very first time you ever heard the word "no" that was a smudge on your window.
The background noise that you hear without noticing through media programming is additional smudges on your window. After some time your window gets so cloudy that you can no longer see through it, it no longer brings pleasure into your experience.

The clarity and focus that was once seen through this window is now dusty, cloudy, and full of fingerprints and smudges from other people that you have interacted with during this experience. Every once in a while we take a paper towel and some cleaner and we clean up a portion of our window. We can see clearly through it for a short period of time until we let someone smudge our window once again.

How does all of this apply to the psychology of Trainwashing? In simple terms, you must clean your window as often as possible. Once your window is clean the information that you see, hear, or experience which smudges the window must interrupt your good experiences in life. The act of Trainwashing is constantly cleaning your window, constantly not allowing other people to smudge or dirty this window which is the mind. Trainwashing is about not allowing you to smudge your own window by the music that you pump into your head which is negative. The hours and hours of television watching not only completely cloud the window but taints the entire space of the box or room that is your mind.

From the time of your birth and even now you have in your possession a sixth sense. This sixth sense is your Big Glass Door. When you are first born to this Earth and into the body that you possess right now your big glass door was open. Now the sixth sense and the big glass door is the most important door that you can have in your room or in the mind space. The reason the big glass door is most important is because this is the door which allows you to attract positive things into your experiences and into your life.

The big glass door that is within this room is, or was previously, opened to fantasy and imagination. The big glass door allows you to manifest whatever you desire into your experience. The big glass door allowed you to sit down with your dolls as a child and create an entire life and experience that was wonderful and dreamy.

The big glass door, or the sixth sense, allowed you to pick up a stick to fight the biggest dragons and to be the best swordsman in all of the land. Until someone told you that he or she did not exist the big glass door housed an imaginary friend who shared your adventures. More importantly the big glass door allowed you to think about a toy or a vacation to Disney when you were a child and allowed you to create and make those things come into your life.

What Leaders Can Learn From Beyonce Knowles

There is something to be said about great leadership. This past weekend was the Super Bowl. This is the national event where we mignons are allowed to witness the greatest of the great in football come together and beat each other to a pulp for a silver ball statute, a blingy ring, bragging rights, and general financial increase. This is also the same event where the masses are allowed to have a 15 minute mini-concert with some of the top names in show business. This year we had the opportunity to witness Beyonce Knowles as the half-time act.

You can argue all day long about why this was inappropriate. Yes, she is quite provocative for a blended audience. Yes, her songs are questionable and the lyrics are blatantly for all things sex. And, yes, she is known to wear barely any clothes. All those things aside, one thing cannot be denied. The woman is a performer and at the top of her craft.

Being that she has earned her way to be called one of the best performers ever, you have to wonder what it is that sets her apart. As I watch things strictly for pleasure or to be entertained, I always try to look at them from a "what lesson can I learn from this" or "how will this help me be a better anything". I did not watch the halftime show while it was live. As I said, the girl is provocative and I was with my family at a church. It would have been highly inappropriate to view it there.

Instead I caught the rebroadcast on YouTube. I try my best to study greatness in action and Beyonce happens to be one of the people I've taken a closer look into. On one of her many YouTube videos she gives an in depth look at the preparation that takes place for one of her shows. Just the amount of professionalism and dedication she exudes in the planning stages is enough to send most of us back to bed. Mind you, the actual practice for the show has not taken place yet. She's setting up the practice for the practice of the show. It's amazing how much she takes a part of the whole concept of her shows.

But, back to the Super Bowl half time show. As I suspected, her show was yet another example of leadership in practice. As I stated before, this woman is the top in her field. She is a performer in her own, confidant in her own abilities to sooth and persuade an audience into submission. Her dance moves alone can get a rise out of any teenage boy. Her lyrics can cause several babies to be conceived on the night of her concerts. In fact, her voice isn't all that bad either. So where was the leadership in this?

She decided with all of that ability to share her stage with two other women who would probably never be afforded the opportunity again. She decided to allow Kelly and Michelle to perform on stage with her at one of the most publicized arenas in the world. Destiny Child was back. All three ladies were on one stage with the slew of backup dancers doing their thing. The move was absolutely brilliant and demonstrative of the highest form of leadership: humility.

Does Beyonce need help singing? No. Does she need help dancing? No. Does she need help commanding a crowd? No. Do the other ladies have stronger voices than her? No. What does she have to gain from allowing the other ladies to perform with her on "her" stage? Nothing. But yet she did it. If you can't see the leadership in that, I beg you to take a closer look.

I aspire to be that type of leader. Beyonce's act showed that she is confidant in her abilities in her field and that she is not intimidated by allowing other people to share her spotlight. She knows that she is the center piece and that there is no harm in letting other people get a taste and feel of what she does and how she does it. Kelly and Michelle will more than likely never perform in front of a crowd like that again. While they both pursued independent careers outside of Destiny's Child, they never achieved the success the group had as solo artists. This was probably their last chance to perform at this level. Beyonce, on the other hand, may very well just be getting started.

What can you and I learn from this? When we are in leadership positions we have to be secure in our positions as leaders. We have to know that we are trained and equipped to do our job, no matter how talented the next person may be. We have to be confident that we can do the job alone if need be, but prefer to lend a helping hand and give someone else a shot. Leaders have to able to perform under pressure flawlessly and give actionable steps, i.e. dance moves, that others can follow or imitate. We have to know how to delegate tasks or lyrics to the supporting people. We have to also be willing to stand out in front and put our names on the line no matter the outcome, good or bad.

Leadership can be tricky and complicated only if we allow it to be. Most of the time we as leaders know how we should act and what we should be doing. If you're a leader, it's because you have an innate leadership ability that others see in you. We can still learn from other leaders. This weekend I chose to learn from Beyonce. I'd encourage you to do the same.

True Leaders Redifined Success

As a reader of my musings, you would know my definition of Leadership. Please refer to the bottom of this page to refresh yourself.

Consciously or subconsciously, most people will refer to success in terms of money, winning or corporate hierarchical achievement. In any case, it refers to making more or being more in reference to others.

I believe, this emanates from a human condition of less-than, of inadequacy, fear and shame that puts us on a never ending path of futility, chasing that which will not bring us true happiness. True success, I believe is being the best of who we can be in those areas of our passions and essence, when we are in our element. Somebody defined success as "wanting what I already have!"

When we use externals as measures for success, all we are doing is punishing ourselves be establishing success criteria that refer us to third-parties, a formula for unhappiness. If the measure of success is money, then if we do not have enough, we have failed, and how much is enough anyway. If the next promotion is the measure of our success, then, if a third party chooses not to promote us, we are placing the measure of success in the hands of another. If we define success as winning a race, then there are endless permutations that will give us, or not, the result we expect, and so, again, we place our success in the hands of others or third party conditions.

Now, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with money, winning or corporate achievement. However, if we link success (and happiness) to these outcomes, then we are handicapping ourselves.

Leadership comes from deep within us. It is the externalising of that gift that we were born to be. It is that childlike energy that does not fear or even understand the concept of being shamed or being ridiculed. It is based on self-respect and the respect of the opinion of others but that does not allow the opinion of others to conclude that by conclusion we are wrong.

It is also that confidence that allows us to accept 3rd party opinions of us and is able to dispassionately take from it that which serves us and discount the rest.

A true leader, motivates themselves and others by expecting the best of themselves and others and creates environments where mistakes are a positive element of progress. They do not pejoratively compare and understand that the richness of the differences are what makes their environment an enjoyable success.

In our definition, Leaders are those that create Leaders and Leadership starts with one owning the responsibility of taking a Lead in their own life! Whether you know it or not, you are a Leader! Leaders exist in all walks of life. They are mothers, CEOs, volunteers, spiritualists, care-givers, receptionists, and the list goes on. However not all these role players are Leaders. http://www.aldogrech.com

What Age Is Old Age?

As an amateur sociologist and image consultant, this question intrigues me especially as anti-aging is a massive world-wide movement and a billion dollar industry.

In the magazine that came with my local paper, it was quoted that 40 is the age we no longer consider ourselves young. The same small item said that many people believe that 59 is the start of old age. A survey of American baby boomers that was quoted in Super Brain by Deepak Chopra & Rudolph E Tanzi, indicated that they believed that old age begins at 85.

My friend, Gail, kept telling her mother that she was not old until she reached 90. A number of years ago I read that old is anyone 10 years older than you although as we get older, I think that the gap widens to 20 or even 30 years older than you. Lastly there are those attempting to defy old age through plastic surgery.

40, 59, 85, 90 or never! When does old age begin?

From my personal observations, some people act old at a young age and never change and some stay young-at-heart until their final breath.

Does a rose ever think - Help! My petals are turning brown and sagging! Was that a petal that just fell off? No! I do not want to get old! It accepts the natural cycle of being a rose.

The difference is that we humans can think about aging and worry, fret and panic about what might or might not happen. I hear these words so often - getting old is terrible. Sometimes they use much stronger words that those.

I much prefer the sentiment that getting old is not for wimps. Becoming a grumpy old woman and associating with grumpy old men is not on my agenda. I am treating old age as a new adventure. That is why I love learning new things, teaching them to others and creating my own baby boomer business. This age is full of so many interesting possibilities that you can tap into and connect with like-minded people all around the world.

Some people grow their limited and depressing view of life while others expand their fascination with living.

When will you say - I am now in old age?

For me, I shall admit my body is old when it reaches 90 but I shall be laughing, learning and dressing modern my way til my very last breath on this planet.

Life Is Not About Finding Yourself - It Is About Creating Yourself

For a long time, I believed that life was about finding myself. I thought that there was a purpose I had to fulfill, and I that had to search the world to find out what that purpose was. After a long time of searching, and feeling lost, I one day decided to give up. Believe it or not, giving up on finding myself was the best thing I did for myself at the time. Why, because when I stopped looking for myself, I actually found myself.

So many of us have been told to discover our destiny or find our purpose. However, how much better would life be if people told us to focus on being ourselves? What if somebody told us to go for the things that we like and want? What of somebody told us to be the person we want to be?

Well, I am here to tell you that life is not about finding yourself; rather it is about creating yourself. It is not about trying to figure out what you want to do; it is about being glad about what you like to do. It is about going for what will make you happy when you achieve or have it. On that note, here are some thoughts to help you understand how and why life is about creating yourself.

First of all, we did not start our lives off in a lost state of mind. When we were children, we all had dreams and goals. We all wanted to grow up and be somebody special. As we got older, some of those dreams seemed to fade away as we faced challenges. Some of us fell in love with new things as we met new people and experienced new atmospheres. Some of us even stopped dreaming altogether and allowed the circumstances of life to dictate our future. However, for those of us that kept dreaming, we maintained our creativity. With that, we were still able to be true to ourselves.

Next, when we were young, we were told that it is important to be educated. We were made to go to school to learn how to read, write, and do math. We did this because our parents and teachers told us we would need these skills for life. They knew that one day, if we possessed these skills, and continually fine tuned them, we could create and awesome life for ourselves.

Last, but not the least, as a child, people would ask us what we wanted to be when we grew up. They did this to encourage us to think about our future. They did this because they knew that it was within us to decide the outcome of our dreams. They knew it was up to us to choose a road to success. Thankfully, they did not ask us questions like, "Have you found yourself?" or, "Have you been looking for yourself?"

As you can see, it is up to you to build the life you desire to live. Therefore, go for the things you want in life and be happy while doing so.

Overcoming Your Anger

Anger is a form of negative energy, which can take over our mind and control of our life. It is natural to lose control in some situations, but if you have no control over your mind and anger is in control, then you are prone to act out aggressively whenever you are rejected, frightened, or emotionally disturbed. People who cannot control their anger should address the problem and seek anger management help from anger management therapists.

Seeking help for anger and stress management is a courageous act and you should know that the doctor's are there to help. If they decide that you need anger management medication, then you should agree to take them. In most cases, anger management medications are not required.

There are various educational materials available on the internet and numerous anger management books that you should read in order to regain self-control. Self-control lets you prevent your emotions from overflowing, meaning that when you are angry you should see what the problem is and then what you can do to resolve the problem, without any violence, either verbal or physical, taking place. This is a powerful anger management technique.

We all know that we are living in an anger driven society. The anger is not just on the population level, but it is also spread on the governmental level as well. There are many underlying problems that lead to an outburst of anger that should be addressed to prevent us from following the crowd:

1. If we have had any failures in our life, the most common reaction is to want to throw things, not respond to anyone's questions and, if we give any responses to anyone then they are in a harsh manner. This can make the other person mad as well and no problem is getting solved, but is getting more and more complex.

2. There are quite a high percentage of people who have problems with substance abuse. Substance abuse is nothing but a step on the road to destruction and most of the time substance abuse is the major underlying cause of anger disorders.

3. In some cases child abuse is also the underlying cause of anger and personality disorders.

Statistics relating to the study of anger show that someone with anger disorders has the ability to kill, harm, injure, or sabotage anybody's life. It is quite evident that when a person is angry they are in a threatening state of mind, because of an underlying reason that makes it difficult for them to cope with the problem they are facing. They cannot control themselves and it is essential that they find anger management help.

But, we should all ask why do we hurt others because of our anger? Sometimes we become selfish and just think about our selves and forget about other people that we are affecting in many ways and are passing on a series of bad feelings. We should consider that problems are like pebbles or stones in our way and we can stumble, but we should re-gain our balance and go on with our journey. That is a valuable piece of anger management advice.

Problems are faced by everyone on a daily basis. If you are at home and are stressed you are likely to be very irritable and if someone asks, "Have you brought groceries with you?" This trigger may be enough for you to go mad and scream at the person to, "go and bring them yourself and do not bug me!"

After this little heated exchange, the fight can gain momentum, but if you will re-gain self-control using anger management techniques, then you will not answer any more and should be thinking reasonably that this is a little problem, which should not be turned into a big one. Fighting fire with fire is not a solution in any scenario and you should know that you should avoid fights where there is no real reason to fight. Anger management strategies that promote mental harmony and politeness can make your life, and everybody else's life related to you more blissful.

What We Believe Creates Our Reality!

Never form attachments to your beliefs that are unbreakable in the face of a higher, more sensible truth... (Read on a social networking site - don't know who to credit)

The theme that I've been requested to write about this time is BELIEVE. I've spent a lot of time thinking about what to write for this article. At first I thought it was going to be about "believing" in a higher power - or maybe "believing in yourself" and then I went down the path of thinking about beliefs and how they shape us and our world.

What we believe truly does shape us and our collective reality - how we are organized in our families, communities, countries and continents even is based upon systems of belief. There are all kinds of belief systems out there and lots and lots of conflicts can be created because of differing sets of belief. I believe that we are being called at this time in our evolution as a species and as a planet to begin to reflect upon all of our previously held beliefs and to really examine their origins and even more importantly whether these beliefs still hold true for us in our present circumstances.

I'll give you a little example - as I was writing this last year, we are preparing for the holidays and "traditionally" we have always celebrated Christmas with a Christmas Tree (and all the fixins) in our family. Over the last few years though as I have grown more and more conscious of my environment and the impact that my choices have on the planet, and since I've grown ever so much more open to communicating with the nature spirits including the tree people, I have been really not feeling good about the idea of supporting the practice of cutting down trees to decorate for a few days and then throw out. Where did this idea come from to begin with? Why do we perpetuate it? Surely we can come up with a better idea that's less damaging and disrespectful of the "living lungs" that provide oxygen for all of us to breathe.

So I took the time to really look at my beliefs about the importance of honoring our tradition while at the same time honoring my growing desire to walk softly upon the Mother and leave no footprints. What I ended up doing today was finding a LOVELY little tree - it stands as high as my nose - in it's pot! We can bring him in for 7 days - then he must go back outside again and wait until the springtime to be planted.

All too often we become so entrenched with our belief system that we become trapped in a way of being that no longer serves but we can't seem to find the way to get out. Sometimes it can be downright scary what people believe - and the decisions that they make, based on those beliefs can be incredibly damaging to themselves, to others and to our world. I have another example about beliefs and ways that we can possibly consider to loosen up the hold that they might have on us - maybe just enough to make room for a different perspective that might really transform the way we navigate our world. Today I got a postcard from a local church - it said "God's Plan of Salvation" on the top. Then it was followed by four bullet points - the first of which was "All of us have sinned."

Now sinned is a pretty charged word for a lot of people so as I contemplated this little card I thought about how the whole thing could be reframed to get across an important message without all the "charge" and the guilt. So here's what I came up with for the four points on the card:

Card Words:

1. All of Us have sinned.

2. Sin must be paid for.

3. Jesus Christ paid for Our sins.

4. What must you and I do?

ReFramed Words:

1. We all have made at least one mistake on our journey

2. We all have the opportunity to learn and choose differently.

3. Jesus Christ was a great teacher.

4. We can learn from many great teachers & become teachers too!

I, of course, am seeing from my own "lens of perception" but I do feel a whole lot more expansive and open to receiving and contemplating the ideas that are trying to be shared with the reframed words then I did with the original wording. Remember that all beliefs started somewhere, with someone, who had a particular experience. Remember too that WE get to create our reality and that creation starts with what we believe. Take some time to re-evaluate your beliefs - all of them - hold them up to the light of your present reality and see which ones may need to be either reframed or released all together. It's OK to change what you believe - we do it all the time unconsciously - imagine what could happen if you chose to shine the light of your consciousness into that endlessly creative mind of yours to figure out what you really want to believe and make it a reality!